“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you." Mt 18:15
Sometimes the Gospel offers us very practical advice. In Matthew's Gospel, the evangelist reminds his readers that Jesus wanted us to heal broken relationships without resorting to public accusations or allegations especially of a personal kind. When we attack one another and try to make it appear that we not assaulting the person, but the person's ideas, we sin and this offense must be addressed, but quietly.
Conversations about difficult matters should always begin in private. In this way, we can be sure that we are honestly seeking to have an authentic relationship with our conversation partners and not simply trying to be right and win an argument. If convincing someone that their opinion is unfounded is more important than hearing them with an open spirit, we are not living the Gospel.
The book of Proverbs reminds us: "Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs," (10:12) and it is the loving person who remembers to seek out those with whom they struggle in order to seek a path of healing.
Today, listen to someone with whom you disagree twice as long as normally would.
Have you been successful in healing a relationship by speaking with the other in private?
Saturday, September 9, 2017
Friday, September 8, 2017
St Peter Claver
"We must speak to them with our hands before we try to speak to them with our lips." St. Peter Claver
The feast of St. Peter Claver is one I always enjoy celebrating, first because Fr. Peter Claver Eich was my vocation director. That Fr. Peter Claver was also a great athlete did not hurt his invitation to me to consider becoming a Capuchin. But even more important, St Peter Claver attracted me because of his heroic life and the service he offered to slaves in what today is Cartegena, Columbia. Leaving his home in Spain, never to return, St Peter Claver's bold spirit captured my youthful imagination and spoke to me of possibilities that I did not want to consider. After all, I fancied myself as an athlete, and in the words of an early basketball coach, would someday “make a difference at center court.” Never mind that I was 5’ 9” and slow. I understood basketball from the inside and dreamed of playing professionally.
The story of St. Peter Claver’s life made me reconsider my priorities and forced me to think beyond sports to a world of religious heroism. Here was a man who spent almost forty years on the docks of Cartagena waiting to care for slaves who had been so badly treated on their journey from Africa that one third of them died in transit. As soon as the slaves landed, Peter would rush to them with medicine, food and (dare I say it) tobacco. As he himself said, "We must speak to them with our hands before we try to speak to them with our lips."(1)
What a powerful sentiment! That we must speak to people with our hands before we announce the gospel to them remains powerful advice.
Today, offer someone a helping hand.
Whose physical love and compassion moved you to be more response to others?
The feast of St. Peter Claver is one I always enjoy celebrating, first because Fr. Peter Claver Eich was my vocation director. That Fr. Peter Claver was also a great athlete did not hurt his invitation to me to consider becoming a Capuchin. But even more important, St Peter Claver attracted me because of his heroic life and the service he offered to slaves in what today is Cartegena, Columbia. Leaving his home in Spain, never to return, St Peter Claver's bold spirit captured my youthful imagination and spoke to me of possibilities that I did not want to consider. After all, I fancied myself as an athlete, and in the words of an early basketball coach, would someday “make a difference at center court.” Never mind that I was 5’ 9” and slow. I understood basketball from the inside and dreamed of playing professionally.
The story of St. Peter Claver’s life made me reconsider my priorities and forced me to think beyond sports to a world of religious heroism. Here was a man who spent almost forty years on the docks of Cartagena waiting to care for slaves who had been so badly treated on their journey from Africa that one third of them died in transit. As soon as the slaves landed, Peter would rush to them with medicine, food and (dare I say it) tobacco. As he himself said, "We must speak to them with our hands before we try to speak to them with our lips."(1)
What a powerful sentiment! That we must speak to people with our hands before we announce the gospel to them remains powerful advice.
Today, offer someone a helping hand.
Whose physical love and compassion moved you to be more response to others?
Thursday, September 7, 2017
Nativity of Mary
"Behold, the virgin shall be with child and bear a son, and they shall name him Emmanuel, which means 'God is with us.'" Mt 1:23
Birthday's are festive times, and although Mary probably didn't celebrate hers like 21st century Americans, we ought to celebrate it with real joy. Mary is the one who’s "yes" to the angel and God made possible the entrance of Jesus into history and her birthday might be a time for us to light a few candles to remember her life and her sorrows.
There are few saints who teach us more about accepting and celebrating life as it unfolds than Mary. Apparently content with her life, especially after she was promised in marriage to Joseph, her life turned upside down when she was still a young girl. A visit from an angel invited her to know God in a more intimate way than anyone before her, but this knowledge came at a great price. She would be talked about and ridiculed, forced to flee her country and family, and when she was free to return to Palestine after Herod's death, she would be faced with the awful burden of watching her son suffer and die as a common criminal.
No wonder we want to celebrate her birthday. Mary's nativity invites us to trust that even that which appears and feels like an overwhelming sorrow, will be transformed by God into hope for all peoples and all nations. Happy birthday, Mary. Thank you for showing us the path to hope in darkness.
Today, ask God for the grace to embrace whatever comes your way.
What it is about Mary that most moves you to say yes to God's path for you?
Wednesday, September 6, 2017
Loving God more Deeply
" Jesus said: 'Put out into deep water and lower your nets for a catch.'"
Often, when I was involved in community organizing, we would say that we had a broad influence in the community and had developed leaders in many churches and congregations, but we did not have sufficient depth. In other words, we could have influence in a particular issue but probably did not have the kind of power that would last. Those with power were not likely to ask our opinion or be concerned with our position. They would not have to worry about us unless we put down deeper roots and became a more integral part of the community’s consciousness.
Jesus seems to be suggesting the same to his disciples. Because God’s love is deep, not just broad, we need to go into "deeper waters." God does not just love us as his children, but as Bernard Lonergan, the great Canadian theologian reminds us, God is in love with us. God’s love is active, powerful and transforming. God’s love is total, complete, everlasting and gratuitous. We cannot earn God’s love. God is in love with us as we are and calls us to love others as he loves us. Being in love with someone means that you have not settled for a good companion in life but are seeking to make the love you experience the foundation of everything you are and do.
Today, love someone more deeply than you loved them yesterday.
Who changed your life by loving you more deeply?
Often, when I was involved in community organizing, we would say that we had a broad influence in the community and had developed leaders in many churches and congregations, but we did not have sufficient depth. In other words, we could have influence in a particular issue but probably did not have the kind of power that would last. Those with power were not likely to ask our opinion or be concerned with our position. They would not have to worry about us unless we put down deeper roots and became a more integral part of the community’s consciousness.
Jesus seems to be suggesting the same to his disciples. Because God’s love is deep, not just broad, we need to go into "deeper waters." God does not just love us as his children, but as Bernard Lonergan, the great Canadian theologian reminds us, God is in love with us. God’s love is active, powerful and transforming. God’s love is total, complete, everlasting and gratuitous. We cannot earn God’s love. God is in love with us as we are and calls us to love others as he loves us. Being in love with someone means that you have not settled for a good companion in life but are seeking to make the love you experience the foundation of everything you are and do.
Today, love someone more deeply than you loved them yesterday.
Who changed your life by loving you more deeply?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)